We are officially at the two month mark, and I have fully realized that my engagement is nothing like the ones I've seen in the movies. Don't get me wrong, there have been plenty of fun times and excited planning, but there have also been plenty of crazy emotions wrecking havoc in my (and Mason's) day-to-day.
Until this weekend, I had seriously started to believe I was going crazy (and I'm sure Mason would agree), but thankfully, that was only until I got my hands on Sheryl Nissinen's "The Conscious Bride." This book has seriously saved my sanity.
I'm only two chapters in, but I already know that I'm not the only bride-to-be who's been plagued by completely irrational fears, scared by the level of commitment she's about to make and a little sad about the way it will change her life (all while being completely in love with her fiance).
Nissinen, a pre-marriage counselor and psychologist, points out that just like any major life transition, the transition into marriage is a BIG deal and emotions like fear, anger, doubt, and even depression are just as common as happiness, joy, elation and excitement. She encourages future brides to work through each of the different emotions coursing through them during the engagement period - the good and the bad - keeping in mind that it's all just part of the process.
Her words and the quotes from other women are the breath of fresh air I've so badly needed (because like I always say, sometimes just knowing that your feelings are "normal" is all you really need).
Four months down - two more to go...